Love

Yesterday I wrote about all of my unrealistic relationship requirements. Then today, in my personality class, we were supposed to be talking about Maslow's hierarchy of needs and we ended up spending the entire class talking about love. It was a really interesting lecture, although rather depressing for someone who has pretty much resigned herself to a life devoid of it. Anyway, apparently Maslow had this theory that there are two levels of love. One he called D love; D means deficiency. This is the kind of love that is basically just about people not wanting to be alone, they are just trying to fill their own needs for love and acceptance. Then there is the higher level which is called B love; B is for belonging. This is a higher, more mature form of love in which both people actually try to fill the other's needs and feel good when they are able to do so. This made me wonder how many people ever actually achieve that higher level. How much of our love is genuine and how much is just people being afraid to be alone? So there's your happy thought for the day.